"Enjoy what you can, Endure what you must"

Life is entirely too short to live any part of it unhappy. I wish that more people would understand this especially when it comes to picking a partner or deciding whether or not the relationship is worth it in the long run. I understand that no person or relationship is perfect. I get that it takes effort and hardwork to make anything work but what is up with people thinking that you must endure through everything? I have tried many times to understand why people feel obligated to stay in a situation that does not make them happy. To be honest, in the past, I was one of those people but these days I really can't seem to wrap my head around it.

Like I said I understand that no one is perfect. Everyone has habits and quirks that can drive you absolutely nuts, I get it. Im not saying that you should break up with Joe because he has a terrible habit of clipping his toenails on the kitchen table, for example, and won't stop no matter how many times you ask. But, then again I guess that kind of is what I am saying. If you are so sick and tired of something someone is doing, even if it is something as trivial, but still disgusting, as clipping toenails on the kitchen table, and you have adressed it to no avail, you have every right to pump the brakes and call it quits. Sure it may be a bit dramatic but who cares. Life is too freaking short to spend it with someone who is not willing to give you what you want.

The problem with too many people today is that they are not picky enough and are willing to put up with someone just for the sake of having somebody around. If people stopped being pussies and started being more vocal and upfront about their needs and desires, this world would be a much happier place. We as people are amazing. You are amazing and you deserve to have the things that you want from life and the things that you want from a person. Have some standards and really decide what and who is really worth your energy. You have every right to be honest and upfront and demand whatever it is that you want from somebody (within reason of course). The person can either rise to the challenge, or you can keep it moving and find someone else who can. On the flip side, don't be discouraged if you make your request and the person decides that you don't mean enough to them to compromise or change. A favor has been done to you. Be grateful. You skipped straight through the bullshit and are now free to experience someone else who might actually be worth your while.

We need to stop feeling guilty for realizing that someone may not be exactly what we want. We also need to quit beating ourselves up when someone decides we may not be the right person for them. Don't try to fight it. Accept it and move on. Every single person in this world has the right, no, the obligation, to have exactly what they want in this world even its not you. Realize that and keep moving forward. If we want the chance to be seriously happy with someone we need to learn to say goodbye to those who don't exactly fit the bill.

Yes. Life is short but it is also long. And what you decide to endure one day, can turn into something your forced to endure for the rest of your time here on earth. Life is about choices. Whether you choose to live happily or you choose to live miserably, the choice is up to you.

"True love is not finding someone else but finding your other half"

This quote is complete bull shit. Calm down. Before you start thinking i'm all anti-love, let me explain my theory. From the time we start to show interest in the opposite sex, one of the things that is drilled into our heads is that "true love is finding your other half". From that point on, most of us are conditioned to think that love and happiness are found in someone else. We tend to overlook how important it is too find this happiness within ourselves and within our own interests and hobbies. After a while, it is not uncommon for us to start to lose a part of us. We begin to love another person more than we love ourselves and start putting up with things that we most definitely should not. That, my friends, is the start of a crappy relationship.

I can't stress enough how important it is to truly love you before you go and try to hand that love out all over town. Yea I know "loving you" sounds like something your mother would say but I am not your mom. It is the truth. You need to really spend time getting to know yourself. What are you interested in? What do you like? What do you dislike? Insecurities? What do you really want from another person? Really accepting you for you is crucial for any relationship whether it be romantic or strictly platonic. The best way to forge a successful relationship is to become the best version of yourself as possible so you can demand that of others that are biding for your time and attention. That will just confirm that you deserve the very best and that settling is out of the question. Have you ever heard the saying you attract what you put out? If you're strong and independent and know what you want out of life, chances are those will be the types of people that you attract. If you're a fragile mess looking for validation in everyone you meet, your going to attract something similar or worse someone who picks up on that and uses that to their advantage. Not a picture perfect story is it?

So c'mon people. Your other half? Get real. Let's be objective about this for a second. Why would you want half of anything if you could have the whole thing? Its freezing cold outside, do you want half of a coat? Or how about when its pouring down raining. You would'nt want half of an umbrella....So why in the world would you want half of a person? Wouldn't you rather have one whole person instead? Last time I checked, 1/2 + 1/2= 1 and 1+1=2 right?  I don't know about you but I would take 2 over 1 any day. So forget about the search for Mr. Right. Go search for you. The second you start feeling complete by yourself, the man of your dreams will fall right into your lap.