Life is entirely too short to live any part of it unhappy. I wish that more people would understand this especially when it comes to picking a partner or deciding whether or not the relationship is worth it in the long run. I understand that no person or relationship is perfect. I get that it takes effort and hardwork to make anything work but what is up with people thinking that you must endure through everything? I have tried many times to understand why people feel obligated to stay in a situation that does not make them happy. To be honest, in the past, I was one of those people but these days I really can't seem to wrap my head around it.
Like I said I understand that no one is perfect. Everyone has habits and quirks that can drive you absolutely nuts, I get it. Im not saying that you should break up with Joe because he has a terrible habit of clipping his toenails on the kitchen table, for example, and won't stop no matter how many times you ask. But, then again I guess that kind of is what I am saying. If you are so sick and tired of something someone is doing, even if it is something as trivial, but still disgusting, as clipping toenails on the kitchen table, and you have adressed it to no avail, you have every right to pump the brakes and call it quits. Sure it may be a bit dramatic but who cares. Life is too freaking short to spend it with someone who is not willing to give you what you want.
The problem with too many people today is that they are not picky enough and are willing to put up with someone just for the sake of having somebody around. If people stopped being pussies and started being more vocal and upfront about their needs and desires, this world would be a much happier place. We as people are amazing. You are amazing and you deserve to have the things that you want from life and the things that you want from a person. Have some standards and really decide what and who is really worth your energy. You have every right to be honest and upfront and demand whatever it is that you want from somebody (within reason of course). The person can either rise to the challenge, or you can keep it moving and find someone else who can. On the flip side, don't be discouraged if you make your request and the person decides that you don't mean enough to them to compromise or change. A favor has been done to you. Be grateful. You skipped straight through the bullshit and are now free to experience someone else who might actually be worth your while.
We need to stop feeling guilty for realizing that someone may not be exactly what we want. We also need to quit beating ourselves up when someone decides we may not be the right person for them. Don't try to fight it. Accept it and move on. Every single person in this world has the right, no, the obligation, to have exactly what they want in this world even its not you. Realize that and keep moving forward. If we want the chance to be seriously happy with someone we need to learn to say goodbye to those who don't exactly fit the bill.
Yes. Life is short but it is also long. And what you decide to endure one day, can turn into something your forced to endure for the rest of your time here on earth. Life is about choices. Whether you choose to live happily or you choose to live miserably, the choice is up to you.
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